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Keeper of My Heart

My husband, daughter, and I rode north on our motorcycles for the annual Blessing of the Bikes. Destination: Baldwin, Michigan. The trip takes about two hours and is less than 90 miles if you don’t make any stops along the way. But of course, we did. Side trips included breakfast at McDonalds and perusing vendor booths along the way.     presentation of Claddagh ring (Copy)

The ride’s function is to raise money for various charities. Approximately 10,000 bikes turned out with prizes for the oldest and youngest rider, one who came the most distance, etc. Numerous booths included clothing items with “Blessing of the Bikes – 2013” on them. The smell of gasoline fumes, delectable BBQs, fried pickles, hotdogs and sloppy joes hung in the heavy air. Cold water bottles were abundant and sold well due to the high heat index.

While walking through vendor booths in Baldwin, we stumbled upon a unique jewelry vendor. My daughter and I find it difficult to pass by most types of jewelry, so we ventured near to gaze upon the individual glass cases. The heavily-tattooed owner was the friendly sort. Naturally, he was interested in promoting his goods in a knowledgeable, positive way. He showed us moonstone rings and other sparkly gems. My daughter, Amanda, tried on a large turquoise ring, but decided against it.

“What about this ring?” he asked us.

The intricate ring the vendor showed us was beautifully carved, silver and boasted two tiny clasped hands. The surprising part came when he parted the two hands revealing a tiny heart hidden inside the ring. No one would suspect such a treasure. My husband was smitten (or bitten) as he suggested one for my wedding ring finger which was currently swollen due to a torn ligament. Sadly, earlier this year, my wedding ring had to be cut due to major swelling and a chance of cutting off circulation in my finger.

The vendor then explained the love tale of the Claddagh ring. Legend has it that a young man fell in love with a lady of higher social-economic ranking. He created a ring for her, gave her the ring, and she willingly wore it. No one else knew, but inside the ring was hidden a heart. Symbolically, he not only gave her the friendship ring, but his heart as well.

The vendor claimed the ring should be accepted by a maiden only from a man who promised to be faithful and true to his woman. I assured him that Steve totally qualified for those rules and that we’d been married now for 37 (almost 38) years.

“Wow – that’s great. Then he qualifies!” replied the vendor with a smile.

The vendor made it his mission as he hunted for a ring large enough to accommodate my swollen knuckle and found one. Steve paid for the ring. He then proceeded to get down on his knees and present the ring to me as he slid it on my left ring finger. Amanda quickly snapped a photo. We kissed. Those within hearing range exclaimed, “Ahhhhhhhhhhhh.” What a treasured moment!   Claddagh Ring (Copy)

 Legend of the Claddagh Ring – The Claddagh ring (Irish: fáinne Chladaigh) is a traditional Irish ring given which represents love, loyalty and friendship (hands represent friendship, heart represents love, crown represents loyalty). The design and customs associated with it originated in the Irish fishing village of Claddagh, located just outside the old city walls of Galway, now part of Galway City. The ring as we know it was first produced in the 17th century.

Endless circle

“Will it hurt?” I ask
He casually remarks,
“Hopefully not;
I’ve done this before.”
“Well, this is my first time.”
“Your finger’s quite swollen and red.”
“Yes, it was injured.”

A special tool
Slices back and forth
Vise grips pull apart
The constricting band
Leaving a noticeable indent
Upon my skin
I try to be brave

Circle … broken now    
Tears flow
37 years ago
Pastor raised this wedding band
In front of God & witnesses
“See, this ring has no beginning/end
A continuous, endless circle”

At this moment,
there is a beginning & end
Have I failed my commitment?
I reason …
‘Tis only an object,
a mere piece of gold
With a touch of bling

37 years mingled with …
Joy
Pain
Doubt
Guilt
Elation
Contentment

Even though the symbolic circle’s
Been visibly broken
The severing cannot eradicate
Blessings of children & grandchildren
Adventures together
Near-death experiences and
Faithfulness within marriage

The one who cut my ring
Cannot take my soul or
Erase memories
It’s not really about the ring
But about the person and
Commitment to my mate
And to marriage itself

Fashion Tip of the day

“I am overwhelmed with joy in the Lord my God!
For he has dressed me with the clothing of salvation
and draped me in a robe of righteousness.
I am like a bridegroom in his wedding suit
or a bride with her jewels.
The Sovereign Lord will show his justice to the nations of the world.
Everyone will praise him!
His righteousness will be like a garden in early spring,
with plants springing up everywhere” — Isaiah 61:10– 11 (NLT).

Happy 36th Anniversary!

Hard to believe…today Steve and I celebrate our 36th wedding Anniversary. I thank God for Steve’s love, faithfulness, and long-standing commitment to me and to our family. Love you babe! 

Always smooth sailing? Hardly. We’ve had our share of turbulent wind and waves, dead-boring calm and serene times too. When we both said “I do,” before God and witnesses, we committed to sticking together in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer. God didn’t promise years of perfection or no troubles. In fact, given the vows repeated, you’d expect adversity and pain.

What’s our secret to success? Flexibility, compromise, faith, and commitment. The best laid plans of men don’t always work out. I may have an idea or plan in my head, but that doesn’t mean my husband will embrace the same idea. Time has a way of helping solve disagreements. If the two of us don’t agree on a certain topic, sleeping on it (if the decision can wait) lends different perspective to the topic.

Give-and-take remains key in a relationship. I can’t always be right and neither can he. Respect the other person for their individual God-given talents and knowledge. I heard a quote once: “If both of us had identical qualities, one of us wouldn’t be needed!”  If more time is needed, agree to disagree. It’s never a good idea to go to bed angry though, “Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry” (Ephesians 4:26).

Commitment: to bind by pledge or assurance, promise, obligation, dedication, devotion, steadfastness. Those can be frightening words…maybe that’s why many chose to avoid making a commitment. After all, it’s much easier and less threatening to stick with someone when the tide is favorable and the way smooth.

Perhaps the most important is faith. Faith in someone bigger and wiser than myself. I chose to place my faith in God: healer, Savior, and unconditional lover of my soul. As much as I love my husband, he cannot satisfy every longing of my soul. Steve is only human—just like me—full of selfishness, pride, and sin. When I place my trust in the unchangeable God, great things happen. Like being married 36 years today to my high school sweetheart! 

Teresa Kay Lasher ©2011

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